Ming's Musings
Monday, October 24, 2005
the scale scare"I dont even want to look at the scale this weekend, I dont want it to spoil my weekend." Rose exclaimed.
"Oh my God, i gained 2 pounds. I am so depressed." my daughter Tifani cried."Mom, you have to respond 'you're not fat!'"
"Just when i got rid of all my size 5/6 clothes, i gained 10 pounds overnight. I am so depressed and miserable." My sister whined, relishing a dress size of one for a considerable length of time.
"It take me 5 days to lose 2 pounds only to regain it over the weekend in 2 days." I added to their tales of weight and misery.
We give too much importance to weight and let it wear us down, drag our days and weeks. Even when we know that we are more than a number, and inner beauty is what matters.
How do we get out of this scale scare? Maybe, just throw the scale out of the window...!After all, what we dont know, a few pounds here and there...won't hurt us. :)
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
No Guts, No Glory"No guts, no glory" I always heard dad say.In my case, "I was all guts, no glory!". I think my biggest enemy is my impulsive nature. I act first before I think. After reeling from the consequences of my actions, I start pondering and wondering why I ever did it?!! Of course, if i started thinking first, I would end up doing nothing at all with my life. I would just get stuck forever with a thought.
"Just do it!", was a line I always lived by. People who know me always think I am brave and fearless. But I guess I act out based on my fears. When I look back on all the wild and crazy things i did, I wonder now, how i ever did it? Now, I even shudder at the thought. Is is because I am growing older and wiser? Or just plain old?
Sunday, October 09, 2005
Weeding"You got to pull from the roots!" Peggy, Jan's friend told her one day. From that day on... everything Jan did,she applied this phrase to her daily life."Pull from the roots!", echoed in her mind constantly. Years later, when she met Peggy again she said,
"You once told me_I have to pull from the roots. I have applied it to my daily life and it does make sense. Thank you so much!" Peggy looked at her, bewildered and replied,
"I dont remember saying that to you at all?!" Than she smiled,"Oh, I remember now, I only meant the WEEDS!"
Sunday, October 02, 2005
Depression"How are you doing Schatzi"? I asked my daughter who lives in Germany while we were chatting on the phone."Oh mom" she replied wearily."It's so strange to come home to an empty house. It's just wierd." My daughter just spent 2 months with me in california and we were both going through a seperation angst.
"Darling, just hang on in there. Keep yourself busy, work out, write in your journal, strum your guitar, continue your break dance classes and lastly do some charity work.Volunteer." I continued. "Make new goals for yourself. Write them down. What do you want to happen in a year, 5 years, and 10 years? You will get excited about life again.You'd be excited to greet a brand new day!"
"How do you know all of this Mom?" she wondered."I really dont know darling. All I know, is it works for me. Living is not about what life gives to you, what matters is what you can give to this life!"
